Sex and a City

Sex and A City

A culture built on men being answered to by women, with one in two marriages ending in divorce and a culture where women feel empowered by prostituting their bodies to drunk men in the hope they will find someone to financially take care of them.

Is this a completely wrong view of New York city? unfortunately the more i delve into the relationship patterns of New Yorkers the more it seems of that persuasion. Women are viewed as pieces of meat by so many men in this city, they are a commodity that can be bought with bullshit and alcohol in their eyes. The women i have spoken to ranging from 19 to 30 have said that they can get men through sexual favors not through their personality, interests or common grounds as all the good men are gay or married.

A university of Iowa study has shown that American women who lose their virginity in their teens are likely to divorce within five years of marriage coupled with the constant fickle media presence showing the perfect husband, family and children can only lead to pressures and stresses in a society dominated by consumerism, advertising and materialistic nonsense. The New York Times survey of April 2011 on sex patterns of New Yorkers found less sexual encounters among 15 to 25 year olds but rampant reckless sex among those in their mid 20s and over. The disregard for self respect stems from an American cultural vice, Television, where women believe offering themselves to multiple men continually is the Sex in the City way to empower themselves and makes them better than men and more in control. Unfortunately the majority are only being used as affairs for these men who are already married or in long term relationships and are usually mistreated and disregarded by the men they are involved with in the long run.

Human Rights Watch has recorded that there was a 25 percent increase in rape cases in North America between 2005 and 2007 alone with one wondering where is it going wrong?  The Gutt Macher Institute has found that although Americans have the same level of sexual activity  as their Canadian, Swedish, French and English counterparts they do so in shorter relationships, and with the continued use of the pill over condoms. This point leads on to the staggering issue of STI’s,  with 9million new infections occurring every year among American adults this is a whopping 19 out of every 1000 adults in the US which puts it on a par with Western Europe and  edging slightly ahead if trends remain the same.

As our world is filled with more sexual content be it on billboards, music videos, clothes shops or in movies and tv, the rates will continue to rise and the reason they are escalating here in NYC and in North America is the fact that they have more advertising and consumerism than most locations  in the world with USA Today stating in an 18month study over 300 separate advertising companies in the US would prefer to go with the SEX SELLS approach regardless of its impact on youth or the sexual degradation of young female Americans.

City of Dimming Lights and Economic Slumbers

Nyc, Paris, London, Tokyo, all centers of power, control, affluence and success to the casual observer but as the western world slips further into the mire of economic misery the lights are slowly dimming.
A city built on potential, ability and possibility is left wallowing in the worst employment crisis since the twenties.

Yet what we are seeing first hand is actually a leveling off at 8.9 per cent unemployment down from over 10 per cent only five months ago in January. The city that has propelled Bloomberg and Trump to success and Sinatra to Gaga is on its knees. While walking around the Lower East Side and even Soho a bleak neglected look is to be seen among people who hate the jobs they are stuck with seeing no way out.

Abandoned and boarded up retail spaces and shop sales 24/7 only further display a city whose divide between rich and poor is widening and widening. In a recent visit to a Social Security office the desperation of ordinary Americans trying to cope with their current economic situations was none more obvious. Single mothers, retired couples and unemployed men from all over the world lined up and argued their case in the hope of financial aid, with one man in question storming out in frustration.

Subway after subway is lined with the filthy rich standing side by side with begging and desperate homeless at a rate i have never seen before. Academics with Masters and entering Phd’s being rejected right left and center for jobs way beneath them in run down bars and half open t-shirt shops.

As hundreds of young people from across the world continue to flood to this city in the hope of prosperity and success the words of a local jean shop owner come to mind, “get out while you can, we wont be far behind’