A culture built on men being answered to by women, with one in two marriages ending in divorce and a culture where women feel empowered by prostituting their bodies to drunk men in the hope they will find someone to financially take care of them.
Is this a completely wrong view of New York city? unfortunately the more i delve into the relationship patterns of New Yorkers the more it seems of that persuasion. Women are viewed as pieces of meat by so many men in this city, they are a commodity that can be bought with bullshit and alcohol in their eyes. The women i have spoken to ranging from 19 to 30 have said that they can get men through sexual favors not through their personality, interests or common grounds as all the good men are gay or married.
A university of Iowa study has shown that American women who lose their virginity in their teens are likely to divorce within five years of marriage coupled with the constant fickle media presence showing the perfect husband, family and children can only lead to pressures and stresses in a society dominated by consumerism, advertising and materialistic nonsense. The New York Times survey of April 2011 on sex patterns of New Yorkers found less sexual encounters among 15 to 25 year olds but rampant reckless sex among those in their mid 20s and over. The disregard for self respect stems from an American cultural vice, Television, where women believe offering themselves to multiple men continually is the Sex in the City way to empower themselves and makes them better than men and more in control. Unfortunately the majority are only being used as affairs for these men who are already married or in long term relationships and are usually mistreated and disregarded by the men they are involved with in the long run.
Human Rights Watch has recorded that there was a 25 percent increase in rape cases in North America between 2005 and 2007 alone with one wondering where is it going wrong? The Gutt Macher Institute has found that although Americans have the same level of sexual activity as their Canadian, Swedish, French and English counterparts they do so in shorter relationships, and with the continued use of the pill over condoms. This point leads on to the staggering issue of STI’s, with 9million new infections occurring every year among American adults this is a whopping 19 out of every 1000 adults in the US which puts it on a par with Western Europe and edging slightly ahead if trends remain the same.
As our world is filled with more sexual content be it on billboards, music videos, clothes shops or in movies and tv, the rates will continue to rise and the reason they are escalating here in NYC and in North America is the fact that they have more advertising and consumerism than most locations in the world with USA Today stating in an 18month study over 300 separate advertising companies in the US would prefer to go with the SEX SELLS approach regardless of its impact on youth or the sexual degradation of young female Americans.
So what’s your personal answer to the problem? Women not having sex so that the “slut” label won’t be printed on them? “Women are viewed as pieces of meat by so many men in this city” – we’r viewed that way anyway, regardless of our sexual activity.
Although I do agree that Sex & the City had a counter affect on society. The Irish Examiner are printing an article this Saturday about the affect porn has on young teens, and what they will grow to be. Monsters basically. Parenting for us is going to be so much harder. Crap.
I also realize you were specifically talking about NY. Soz if I went off on a rant!!!
ahha its ok to go on rants roisin, we all need to sometime, you raise good points, in answer to your first question,
i think regulation of tv shows and films needs to be increased as does sex education in schools both in my home of Galway and Ireland but also here in the US. a stronger focus on equality between genders needs to be encouraged from a young age through educational environments and content.
women are viewed as meat in new york through a continual sexualized environment, its sad but true, and thankfully through the influence of the male gay community women are getting a fairer footing in some male dominated areas.
as a 20 year old in Ireland Roisin i feel concerned for the generations that are to follow and yes parenting for us will be a struggle, but one we must rise.
hope you are well, if you wish to raise further points, im
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